of the Unity Candle
The following poem by Harold Douglas is frequently recited by the
officiant while the bride and groom light the Unity Candle:
Soft mists embrace two golden flames,
Alone they search the night.
Two souls adrift in dreams of love,
They seek to claim the light.
The path is long from which they came,
But sure they are it's right.
Two flames embrace in dreams of love,
Two Souls - Two Hearts Unite.
Groom and Bride will light the unity candle, as a symbol of their
marriage. The candles from which they light it, represent each of
them in the fullness of their individuality. They come as individuals
and do not lose their identity, rather they create through their
commitment the relationship of marriage. Therefore, three candles
remain lit. One for each of them and one for their marriage, as
symbols of their commitment to each other and to a lasting and loving
From every human being there rises a light that reaches straight
to heaven. And when two souls are destined for each other and find
each other, their streams of light flow together and a single brighter
light goes forth from their united being." (by Baal Shem Tov)
This candle you are about to light is a candle of Marriage. Its
fire is magical because it represents the light of two people in
love. This candle before you is a candle of Commitment because it
takes two people working together to keep it aflame. This candle
is also a candle of Unity because both must come together, giving
a spark of themselves, to create the new light. As you light this
candle today, may the brightness of the flame shine throughout your
lives. May it give you courage and reassurance in darkness, warmth
and safety in the cold, and strength and joy in your bodies, minds,
and spirits. May your union be forever blessed. (Reverend Amy Long)
# 5 Family Candle Ceremony
Officiant: This marriage is not just the joining of Groom and Bride,
it is also the joining of [children's names], those family members
present and those who are present today only in our memories.
This candle before us symbolizes the joining of
Groom and Bride's past and of the new family they have formed here
today. It should also serve as a reminder to them of their faith
in God who enriches their marriage and their family in every way.
Just as your love for one another, the flames that light the individual
candles will burn brighter when joined together. Extinguish the
two and be forever united in God's love.
(There is an additional smaller candle for each
child. The Groom and Bride light these candles, and then all together
light the center Unity Candle.)
The lighting of the center candle represents not
only the union of [Groom] and [Bride] in marriage, but the unity
formed in this new family in which your lives will now shine as